Mister Chastity

One time, I walked into work at Walmart, and the greeter, Joseph, said how are you doing, Mr. Chastity. The funny thing is that he wasn’t actually aware that I am transgender, but I explained to him and told him that Mr. Chastity is actually a pretty cool title. After all, if a man wants to be celibate, then that is something he can do.

Chastity is considered a female name, which does make it perfect for me.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chastity_(given_name)

However, if someone identifies as male but still wants a name that represents celibacy in the same way, they are out of luck. There is no male equivalent for the name Chastity because, in most of society, being a man is about having sex. The more women you have had sex with, the more of a man you are. To be celibate is not to be a “real man”.

That’s where the sexist double standard comes in. Men are expected to be sexual all the time, so a lot of them pretend to be more sexual than they are, and of course, they pretend to be straight even if they are gay.

So the message given to me by society the entire time growing up and embedded in all the movies is that you become a man when you have sex, and the more sex, the more of a man you are.

But when the greeter at Walmart called me Mister Chastity, it made me realize that no one else would claim such a title. Men are proud of how much sex they have and the length of their penis, but no man in the world is proud of their commitment to celibacy.

Except for me, that is. Apparently, people are still telling me that I am a man, especially in my recent Instagram video, which got over 150 thousand views.

Happy Pride Month Instagram video:
https://www.instagram.com/p/C7p4hcAORGu/

But then again, plenty of them are also telling me to kill myself as well, so I can’t take them too seriously.

But it led me to the idea that if I were a man, I would be THE MAN. The one and only man who actually vowed Chastity and named themself Chastity.

So, am I a man? It depends on who is asking and their definition of a man. Unfortunately for them, I have my definition.

No one is a real man unless he is strong enough to be a woman. No one is a real man as long as he is a slave to his sexual desires and the approval of society.

A real man is brave enough to speak the truth about his female soul and to be honest about being transgender, asexual, and gay.

So the real joke is that I’m a man, and the haters in my comments section are not! They are far too weak and far too dependent on whether women are willing to have sex with them.

So be a man, choose your adventure, and be who you want to be, and not what society tells you that you have to be because of what chromosomes or body parts you were born with.

Ironically, none of this changes the fact that I am transgender, and my heart tells me I am a woman. But what I can tell you is that if you play chess with me, I’ll show you a man!

Physically I may be a sissy of a human, but mentally, I am stronger than any man can hope to be. I haven’t had testosterone in my system for 3 and a half years, and I don’t have the muscle of a man, but I have everything I need to be the man AND woman I need to be for any occasion.

You know who else is the man? Taylor Swift! She even wrote a whole song about it!

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The Man
Song by Taylor Swift

I would be complex
I would be cool
They’d say I played the field before I found someone to commit to
And that would be ok
For me to do
Every conquest I had made would make me more of a boss to you

I’d be a fearless leader
I’d be an alpha type
When everyone believes ya
What’s that like?

I’m so sick of running as fast as I can
Wondering if I’d get there quicker
If I was a man
And I’m so sick of them coming at me again
’Cause if I was a man
Then I’d be the man
I’d be the man
I’d be the man

They’d say I hustled
Put in the work
They wouldn’t shake their heads and question how much of this I deserve
What I was wearing
If I was rude
Could all be separated from my good ideas and power moves?

And they would toast to me, oh
Let the players play
I’d be just like Leo
In Saint-Tropez

I’m so sick of running as fast as I can
Wondering if I’d get there quicker
If I was a man
And I’m so sick of them coming at me again
’Cause if I was a man
Then I’d be the man
I’d be the man
I’d be the man

What’s it like to brag about
Raking in dollars
And getting bitches and models
And it’s all good if you’re bad
And it’s okay if you’re mad
If I was out flashing my dollars
I’d be a bitch, not a baller
They paint me out to be bad
So it’s okay that I’m mad

I’m so sick of running as fast as I can
Wondering if I’d get there quicker if I was a man (you know that)
And I’m so sick of them coming at me again (coming at me again)
’Cause if I was a man (if I was a man)
Then I’d be the man (then I’d be the man)
I’m so sick of running as fast as I can (as fast as I can)
Wondering if I’d get there quicker if I was a man (hey)
And I’m so sick of them coming at me again (coming at me again)
’Cause if I was a man (if I was a man), then I’d be the man

I’d be the man
I’d be the man (oh)
I’d be the man (yeah)
I’d be the man (I’d be the man)

If I was a man
Then I’d be the man

Songwriters: Taylor Swift, Joel Little. For non-commercial use only.